The issue of disobedience of children to their fathers because of greed for money or wealth is considered one of the thorny issues in this era until we have reached the case of using young people at a young age to incite against fathers or mothers and use each of them as a tool, whether against the father for the mother or the mother for the father’s account, it is a double-edged sword in the event of separation or divorce, This leads to a negative image and contrived hatred of parents in the hearts of children to gain their total loyalty. This negative image may be the main reason that leads to the weakness of the personality of children, but rather completely obliterate the features of that personality until it becomes fragile and unsuitable for forming a family, building a successful future, or even playing its positive role in society. This is systematic incitement and a form of psychological abuse of the young person, forcing him to take a stand against one of his parents, who should provide him with protection and care. This incitement can have serious psychological and behavioral effects such as depression, low self-confidence and problems in social and family relationships.
We do not forget that one of the most important reasons is also the preference of the wife over the parents or the mother’s attempts to take revenge on her husband by disobeying his children and standing in front of him, whether for money or as a kind of settling her personal accounts with her husband using the children as a tool of pressure on the father and the extent of this impact on the relationship of the children with their fathers later, and the consequences of these shameful acts against fathers, striking all customs, values and religious and legal principles towards the duty of children to their parents, other than Caring about the seriousness of the impact of this ingratitude of children on their parents, this topic is usually portrayed through stories and characters that express children who turn into arrogant and arrogant people because of the financial wealth they enjoy, and ignore their duties and respect for parents. The focus is on children who use money to control parents and family, may commit immoral acts or ignore their family responsibilities.
Addressing this topic in soap operas aims to highlight the negative effects of excessive wealth and disregard for money on the relationship of children with their parents and the family in general. These television productions show how wealth can become a factor of separation between individuals and lead to children deviating from the right family values and principles. It may even be a major reason for the son’s lack of responsibility and the pursuit of diligence in work and the formation of an independent, successful and distinct personality that benefits society, family and family, but unfortunately, what happens is the opposite, especially in this age where all its laws and rules have become misleading to the truth.
If we talk about children’s disobedience to parents and its ruling in the Holy Book of Allah, we will find that religion has addressed the child before the adult with the hadith of the Prophet – may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him – who recommended the mother three times and then the father, and the verse: “Do not say to them, “Do not rebuke them, and tell them a generous word.” It is the right of a child to spend on his father, as long as he is young, and as long as he is unable to provide for alimony, his father spends on him if he can, disciplines him, teaches him what God has obligated him, forbids him from what God has forbidden him, and sets an example for him in goodness. But what we see now is the dependence of children and their indifference to take responsibility when they reach the stage of youth, as if the father were a machine for spending money, nothing more, nothing less, as if it were an acquired and inevitable right and a duty of the father. We must admit that we are in a world of challenges and changes that parents face in modern societies. Our world is evolving rapidly and values, beliefs and social attitudes are changing, affecting the upbringing of children and their relationship with their families. In the past, education focused mainly on discipline and obedience. The relationship was based on respect for the older person and appreciation of the effort, sacrifices and giving of parents towards their children, but with the development of societies and the change of values and social trends, education began to move towards a lack of respect for the father and the father became just a material protection only in the process of upbringing. In this context, tension may arise between children and parents. On the part of parents, they may feel anxious and confused about this phenomenon known as “ingratitude of children”. They may wonder about the reasons for this change in children’s behavior and thinking, and they may feel guilty or failed when they have difficulty communicating and understanding their children.
It is clear that the factors affecting the ingratitude of children and the difference in education from the previous are multiple and manifold. Including the influence of media and information technology, where children are exposed to multiple influences through social media and electronic games. Schools, friends and the environment around children also influence the formation of their personalities and values.
In the end, before I conclude my article, it is necessary to direct these tips to the new generation of young people, and for us as parents to them is to refer to the Book of God and the Sunnah of His Holy Prophet, adhere to the value and respect of the father, and work to break the excuses and illusory justifications to escape the responsibility of young people, as they are the future generation and future leaders of the emergence of societies.